Mellors, it has to be extremely painful for you, but yes, I do think you made the right choice. Your son will find out for himself what kind of a woman his mother is. It may take some time, but I have no doubt he'll want to come back and live with his father.

In raising my step-son, I made the mistake of keeping him away from his birth mother. I can see that now in hindsight. He left our home as soon as he graduated from high school to go be with his birth mother and get to know who she is. He met a female, married and had two children. Now he feels trapped because with a family and a good job, he can't pull up stakes and come back home.

There are a whole lot of other "family" things, feelings, separation from is brothers that could have been avoided if I had allowed him to get to know his birth mother instead of trying to protect him from her.

All my best wishes to you, Mellors. My heart goes out to you.