zoo, in a way, I think taking the reins in therapy IS an exposure - maybe not as intense as trauma exposures, but it's an exposure to fear nonetheless, and therefore T should be proud of you for doing it if that's what you choose to do. In fact, it's extremely important and valuable work for you to go in there and do what you need to take control of the situation. It's like regulating emotions, right? Instead of feeling out of control of the feeling, you do something constructive about it and decide you are in control of your behavior?