Oh Bashfull! Most of all, no, it doesn't make you a bad mother. Not at all! Do you know if he feels he has to do this out of some kind of obligation or economically speaking? In what way do you think he's changed, and for how long has this been? It *is* good to know that at least he's had training and experience in difficult situations, and that is something to keep in mind by way of comfort, yes?