Wow. THIS is a great insight, zoo!

I had times during the trauma stuff when I would go and tell T that I just wanted to rest. And he would say ok, and I would curl up on the couch. Usually with a blanket Talk about not doing trauma work! lol

Usually, I'd still end up telling him part of the story. I think knowing that I COULD rest and being allowed to curl up and feel safe gave me the strength and faith to move forward a little bit more. Sometimes we would do a lot of work in my "rest" sessions, because I felt like I could.

But sometimes, I would really, truly just rest. Right in the middle of my trauma stuff I fell skateboarding in my basement (seriously) and had a concussion and I saw T the day after I was in the ER. I was SOOOOOOOOOOOOO out of it and tired...I couldn't drive, so my H drove me. T and I literally sat on the couch and watched silly videos on his laptop. I could have stayed home (maybe I *should* have) but I really needed to stay connected to T while we were working through the story. So, I just went to connect.

It's OKAY to go to do trauma work, it's OKAY to go and just connect, it's OKAY to do both, or anything in between. Just look at what's right in front of you while you're there tomorrow, and do what you can handle.

Remember that T isn't inside your head, so she doesn't know if the trauma work is too much for you unless you tell her. Tell her if you need to, zoo. You can do it.

to you, my friend