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Thank you for posting. I hope that your GF will open up to seeing someone for the help that she needs. Those within have always been there to protect and to do for us what we could not do ourselves. Many times they have had to protect--to step in for us. They need to be heard and to be accepted for themselves.

It takes time to build that trust for so many of them and ourselves trust never existed. To be there for her is important and to respect others within is important too. Forcing the trust issue can do more damage and can retraumatize. Being in continued abused makes it so hard to move forward. The protectors are continuing to protect and react to what they know. Or that is the way it is for us.

I am sorry you are both going through this. Not sure what to tell you. I know that there are those within myself that push others away out of fear and their meanness is what kept us safe for so long. They are a part of her and an important part. Take your time and listen. I hope she will get the help that she needs. She deserves to be heard and to be supported.

Thank you for reaching out and I hope you will keep posting. Sending gentle hugs and loving thoughts. Always.

dps