My psychiatrist used a wonderful analogy to illustrate how you can react to getting your personality disorder diagnosis.

Picture a wall. The wall is your disorder, your limitations. You can face the wall and keep staring at it. Knowing it wont budge and you wont get any further than that without feeling it's limits. The alternative is to use the wall to lean on with your back - facing the room. It will give you more stability and there is still a whole room in front of you to explore.

Acceptance is tough. But once you accept the limitations that go with your disorder you can make this knowledge about yourself a strength. Change what you cannot accept, accept what you cannot change.