I get the exact same way. Except I expect my husband to leave mostly when I am in my sort of weirdly upset, anxious, racing thoughts moods. I have such a hard time pinning thoughts down in my mind that I figure I must be driving him insane, I will have whole entire conversations "with him" without even opening my mouth, during which I usually determine he should leave, or I should leave to save him the trouble. Whenever I do manage to blurt out some of this stuff, he always swears that he would never leave, but even when he's saying it I have difficulty believing it. ****, I know I couldn't put up with someone like myself (as I can hardly handle myself inside my own brain!), so why would any one else put up with me?

My husband travels A LOT on business, sometimes gone for weeks at a time, sometimes only every other day or so... I find that when he's gone for a long time is when I get more afraid (or sure) that he's going to leave me because I call him and I'm always a basket case when we start talking, even if I try to hold it all in and not bother him.

Geeze, I guess my phone calls probably ramble on a lot like this particular post.

Anyhow, according to my husband and my t/pdoc, this is irrational fear and me placing my feelings on him, without actually knowing how he feels.

Hm, not sure any of this will help.