It sounds like you are both going though a lot emotionally/mentally right now with dealing with your new diagnoses and you are having a hard time relating to each other while you are doing it. I also sense from your last sentence or so that you still do love him and want him as part of your life. Unless it's pure torture, try sticking it out a bit until you both become more comfortable with the other things in your life. Try to support each other the best you can (which I know must be hard when you are both dealing with a mental illness). Good luck.