Innerzone I can somewhat understand how you feel. My sister-in-law's parents went to Ohio and picked up their grandchildren (my s-i-l's two nephews and niece) about three weeks ago. I posted something on here yesterday, I think, about the oldest boy, who is fourteen. He (the oldest) is always getting yelled at and ridiculed. Saturday, he got yelled at in front of a b-day party full of people because he asked why they were going to church on sunday instead of sat. night. The grandmother wanted to stand him in the corner and embarrass him in front of everyone--he's fourteen!--because of his "attitude." The only thing I could do was to give him a big hug and tell him everything's going to be okay. I HATE the old crone. It takes a lot for me to hate someone, but she is just a hateful, spiteful, mean, vindictive old bitty of a hag. I hate her, hate her, hate her...i wish she'd drop dead. I would love to do something, but, she lives a few miles from me. I like to drop "hints" and smart-*** comments. I also like to talk "privately" to someone, ya know, a few feet away, just loud enough where the old witch can hear me. It feels good to see her face cringe. This is NOT the adult thing to do, however, and it probably doesn't help anything. I hope everything gets better, but if worse comes to worse, open the front door and scream your head off till you lose your voice. This is just going to be a waiting game unfortunately