I thought I'd better put a trigger since it talks about a near SA and break and enter.



Very good information Myers. I learned from experience how to be a horrible victim. At the age of 13 my brother in law tried to assault me - I pushed him away, locked myself in the bathroom, threatened to scream out the window/climb out the window if he didn't leave.

Another time a long time ago, my BF became drunk and unable to drive at his bosses Xmas party - I later realized the boss was pushing drinks on him all night. Unfortunately I fell for him driving me home, where he kept trying to entice me. When that failed he threatened he had a gun in dash compartment of the car, so I said "oh yeah lets see" and popped it open. I then told him "you better f'ing give up and take me home".

Once I had 2 men break into my house while I was at home. The moment I saw them I remembered a show I watched on how not to be victimized. Instead of acting scared, I yelled at them and they ran away(surprisingly). So I agree it's important to be the worst victim possible because they don't want a hard time.

I saw on Oprah and they were talking about this subject - they said if you're confronted in a parking lot, where they want to get you in their car....it's better to struggle and scream, even get shot in the parking lot, than cooperate and go in their car, because it will be much worse. Of course if a person has a gun and wants your money, you should just give it to them. But if they want you, it's better to struggle in a public place because the predator doesn't want a scene.

I think the biggest mistake we make with children, is to teach kids to be afraid of 'strangers' only. True they should be afraid of strangers, but what about 'nice' family members, neighbors and friends. Most predators don't look scary. Most kids are taught to respect adults - but we also need to give them permission to disrespect an adult if they cross boundaries. So if that nice person who's been grooming them turns ugly, they will have the power to fight them and say "NO".

When we're faced with being a victim, the 1st reaction is shock and we usually freeze. That's what happened to me when I was 13, but it lasted only seconds before I became furious for my sister's sake. We need to teach our loved ones how to be prepared in the face of danger and we also need to rehearse in our minds how to respond to dangerous situations. Thanks Myers for this informative post.