I was 17 when I met a 20 year old college freshman - my parents weren't thrilled but here we are 15 years later, married 13 of them and with 2 kids. I am often amazed that he has stayed with me through so much, but as others have said love sees past the flaws to the beauty underneath which tells me that somewhere in my core there must be a spark of something amazing - even if I can't recognize it! YET!