thanks for explaining more about what you believe. it is an interesting philosophy of life. i tend to be highly self-reliant too but i've found that same self-reliance can make it difficult to find love. for me this has been because of my dysfunctional family background. i found it hard to trust people emotionally and especially to rely on others, so i mostly relied on myself but that can get lonely and i've realized it is good to have a balance. one thing you might find interesting is a spiritual discipline called the examen. it helps you look at what is working in your life each day and what isn't. it can be a good practice to understanding one's emotions and what we really need rather than what we think we should be. it's not an eastern practice but maybe you'll find it interesting anyway. if not, no worries.

what does this one mean? i don't understand what they mean by "have no heart".

i don't think you need to have a girlfriend. a lot of times people pressure others to be in a relationship because that is the cultural norm. if you want to be in a relationship then great, and if not then maybe you can simply explain to your friends that it isn't something you are currently interested in. they may not understand and keep bringing it up and then just keep telling them the same thing. eventually, they will leave you alone about it. if you want to find a girlfriend then actively looking for one might be a good idea if it isn't happening on its own. you could always just pursue some friendships with women to start but it's good to be clear if that is all you are looking for so as not to lead the women on.

that makes it sound like you do want to find a girlfriend. do you think that is right or is it more just the pressure you are feeling from others? motorcycles are cool but yeah do be careful.