Thank you for your thoughts. We only have one income and cannot support two households though, so I don't think funneling our money is going to solve the issues there. I also don't think we should enable her to stay with someone who has intimidated her and us. As stated before, there are many more details which I've not shared.

We have only met his parents (his mom and step-father), once and the few times we've come down, we pay for meals and ask if his parents want to come with. All he says is no. We had one meal planned when we first met and came down and he called his parents and made some excuse for it to not occur. For whatever reason, he doesn't want the two sets of parents communicating (or so it seems). I don't have their address or phone number. I tried again last time we went down to invite them and again, the husband said no. So we have tried all we can, it's not that we don't try.

The husband also told my daughter that his step father was in the special forces. But the one time we met them, the step-father told my husband that he was a cook in the Army. We are told different things than our daughter is told and so whatever her husband says, she believes. You are right that this is up to my daughter. That doesn't mean I can't have concerns about her and the grand children. It will be a bigger problem if he's in jail again and no one is there to pick up the pieces because his parents are not making much money anymore and live in a trailer with her mom.

Thank you, however, and I do appreciate all opinions and offerings of suggestions.