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Originally Posted by Occipital
...Then during a night session he asked me if I'd like him to be my prostitute instead of therapist. I recoiled, said no, and cried. Odd, I know, ....
I live in Atlanta and thought, how do i know if it was just me or if he does this to others? Was it exploitation, or just a one-time thing. I may have my doubts, but I can get proof if I talk to another local person who has had the same experience -- if we have the same guy, then we know for sure it was exploitation.
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Hi
You recoiled because you felt, instinctively, that what he was suggesting was wrong. So, it's not odd at all that you said no, and cried. He was asking to change the nature of the relationship to something ethically wrong, and you reacted to that in the normal way.
Like Sharon said, you don't need to find if someone else has this experience with him to know if he's exploiting you - doing it with you is exploitative.
It's unethical/exploitative for a therapist or cardiologist or nurse (etc) with a patient.
It's unethical/exploitative for a teacher or a coach with a student.
It's unethical/exploitative for a boss with a subordinate.
It's unethical/exploitative for a minister and member of the congregation (in the denominations I'm aware of a sexual relationship outside marriage is not OK).
You can report him if you wish.
But most important is to get help for yourself, beyond the support you get here. A new therapist - a woman who offers trauma-informed treatment, help for survivors of sex assaults (even if you consented, he abused his emotional control over you from the therapy to get your consent).
It's not your fault that this happened; what he did was wrong and he knew it when he started, the first time he crossed the line.
He cannot stand himself, nor stand to see you, because of his guilt and shame.
Sorry for you and your pain
