As a woman who on the verge of leaving her hubby of 29 years I would like to share a couple of things.
For 29 years I have come last in his life. Our wedding vows read I take you, your jeep, and you dog. I did not have a car for the first 3 years. I hitchhiked to and from work for the first 2 years. I was the major bread winner for the first 20 years. I never knew what the bills were, I never had spending money, I was not allowed access to checking accounts. I was refered to as his wife the kids mom. I put him though college.
He drives a 60k tricked out dodge truck. He has a rock crawler jeep that set us back over 50k. Our grown son has a jeep set up that hubby spent over 40k building.
All the while I have little. We broke ground last month on a 60k 2 bay garage for him. While I have a dishwasher that is held up by a can. Holes the size of footballs in the kitchen. Missing doors and drawers. Carpet that is ducttaped to the floor and no window covers.... for the last 15 years. The look of the home from the outside is great. His man den set us back 40k last year. But nothing has been allowed for the working part of the house. Now that I am considering leaving he want to do those things maybe next year or the year after because there are some jeep trips he wants to take next year. Trips that I am not invited. Man trips. In the last 5 years our income has been above the 200,000 a year mark. And all the while I am aloted 1 tank of gas a week. Keep in mind we live 22 miles out of town.
To little to late. Look inside yourself and ask for the last 30 years did you put her first in your life or at least a close 2end? Where her emotional needs as important as yours?