I'm glad you don't feel ashamed about it Indie and I understand how you don't feel comfortable talking to your mom. Did she educate you about sex? I think you could talk about it with your therapist if you're comfortable or if you have a cool aunt who you trust or a friends mom who's open.

Regarding menstruation you can post in the Women's Forum and we could help you with that or any other issues. This forum is also great for young people who need questions answered. I know what it felt like to be clueless when I was younger and didn't want my own girls to feel this way. We are sexual beings and that's okay.