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Originally Posted by savingjanedoh
Either I give up or I give my all, either I love being me or I am unintentionally and (seemingly uncontrollably) cutting myself down.
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Since you know that, practice reversing it!
I use to put myself down, would yell (in my head only :-) "Support!" and three guys in togas would run through the empty
dome of my head from the right ear to the center and set up a huge Corinthian column before running off toward my left ear.
Get to know yourself better and get yourself to laugh and relax. It's not all life and death. When you're over the top with how clever you are, use your inner voice to modulate and have it demand the praise (instead of the braggart you). "Yeah, thanks to Me, who had the idea?" when you're feeling like you've walked on water will put a little more evenness into things. We can't do everything ourselves, either all right all the time or all wrong all the time. Practice modulating the extremes with humor and reminders of who else is in the equation. Don't start with thinking you'll do it all yourself if the people you're counting on welsh on you; realize that might happen so do a Plan B and Plan C and add on time and allow yourself time (I use to decide I had to be X by Y date and if one OR the other didn't work, I'd give up).
Nothing happens as fast or easily as we'd like. But, learn to love the long haul and the process instead of just your imagination picture of what it will be like. We can't know what it will be like when we're starting. I remind myself when I start something new that it's like being in first grade and worrying about graduating from high school; that's nuts! Takes 12 years. Social scientists say it takes 10 years experience and background to become an expert/overnight success. You have to write for 10 years, day in and day out before you might have consistent author success (publish books). You have to work 10 years before you'll be ready to be president of the company.
35 years ago I weighed 120 pounds less than I weigh now. I started losing weight in 2006. I have lost nearly 50 pounds since then and gained back nearly 30 but I'm still working and am confident I will meet my weight loss goals. . . eventually :-) Check back with me in 2016.