Treat yourself as you would treat one of your wonderful friends..look at it from the outside..

If you met yourself, would you like yourself, want to help yourself out, be a true and good friend to yourself?

You have more worth and value than you feel or even can fathom, and it is not because of anything that people say about you..

God willed that you exist, He loves you, you count, you matter

I care for you as well, I struggle with this as well....we must and can be good to ourselves, we deserve this, deep down, whether we are alone at the moment, or with someone complimenting us..

Would a book recommendation help? I am reading one about forgiveness, and living in the present moment..

Write again, can you describe the situation more accurately? I want us all to help immensely!