Does your T have particular experience with you dx? I do see such contrast potentially creating trust issues if he/she can't relate to what you experience. If your finding yourself not respecting them based on their own struggles (i.e weight), that is a lot different.

My T told me on day 1 I could ask her whatever I wanted to. I've asked what might be considered intrusive questions a few times but only when I believed the answers/explanations would be helpful to my healing. She answered them because she believed it would be helpful and also trusts the spirit in which I would ask.

I think clients should ask whatever they want to. The T is trained to hold boundaries and should feel fine saying they are not comfortable answering or using the question to explore other pathways. That's why we pay them.

By the way, my T is a bit plump. I still think she is beautiful because of who she is with me.