You have to connect with yourself first, be a friend to yourself and doing your own thing and then you will be attractive to the same sorts of strong, whole people. By "own" thing I mean, what are you good at, what do you like, who are you? Get to know yourself, talk to yourself :-) and laugh at yourself and help yourself with your problems (instead of criticizing) and realize that you are you and fine the way you are. If you are comfortable being with yourself, so will other people be.