So... the structure of my brain was one way as a teenager and a wife for the first time... because if I told the truth, I wasn't believed but if I lied I was...

And when I divorced my first husband and SWORE to myself to stop lying and I did... Did my brain restructure itself first or did I restructure it because I stopped lying??

As a child, I was taught that lying is a "sin." Yet, my mother never believed me if I told the truth... so I resorted to making up stories to satisfy her. Mixed messages there!

After a few months of being married to my first husband, I realized he would rather believe a way out, stretched out of shape distortion of what really happened than to believe the simple truth. Same as my mother. I didn't like doing it with either person. It meant my survival.

So... was it my brain or was it my inborn integrity????