gonnagetcha, welcome to the forums!

i think fear and anger are closely related emotions. i've often been very frightened for one of my children, and then when i know they're alright, i would feel anger. however, i was able to not convey that anger, and replace it with a very stern lecture regarding safety.

i don't know what you might do to correct this, but to do alot of self talk about stopping before speaking until the moment has passed. possibly counting to ten and practicing that every time until it replaces what comes out initially.

i don't think you're a bad parent at all. i think that's instant reaction, and might be able to be replaced with another thought or action.

good luck! let us know!

kd