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Old Aug 12, 2010, 08:30 AM
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The ability to have a reciprocal relationship is damaged. I am happy to give, but it's so hard, if not impossible, to allow myself to accept from another.
Then, allowing yourself to accept from T is what will be healing for you, and what you can gain from therapy.

Regarding your T and her blank face....not all Ts are like that. Or, maybe you're misinterpreting her. She did nod in acknowledgement. Is it possible she has no idea what you wanted from her? Does she know you want more feedback from her and not so much "blank face?" Is it her orientation that she won't change, or doesn't she know?

My current T seems to be willing to express appreciation for what I give her. She told me that a recent email was "beautiful" and it made her smile. At my last session she told me I was "funny." She makes me feel like she's benefiting from our relationship. I think she even told me that once.

If T is truly a "blank screen" all the time, and you want someone different, then go for it! I can't say enough how I never thought I'd experience a different type of therapy, but here I am, doing it. It's always up to YOU to get the kind of help that you need.