yes it can be that way for some people and for others there could be other ways. some people say "we" even though they have no idea they are DID, have no co consciousness between the alters and between the alters and host (person in which the alters live)

the way a persons "system" is within them is whatever they needed to survive. A "system" is all the alters inside a person, how those alters came to be, what they know, what they remember, and how their "heirarchy" or leadership is. Each persons system is set up differently to best suit their problems, history of abuse, triggers, what their own abilities are for coping with their life.

for outsiders (people that are not me and my alters) like my partner, friends, family to understand what it feels like, its like what you would feel if someone told you, you have parkensins would feel like.

first when you are told you have it. it feels scarey to suddenly realize you have a disease / disorder. but then when you finally get it that nothing has changed, you have been like this all your life you calm down and start trying to figure what that disease disorder is and what is the treatment for it. then you go through treatment. the treatment you go through is individualized according to what the person with the disease /disorder needs in order to better their life, allieviate their symptoms and solve their problems they have because of the disease / disorder.

the way I got integrated may not be the way Sandy, or Jake or kim or orin get treated and integrated. Some people with DID can choose whether they get integrated others cant choose, it just happens as a result of their treatment.

I got integrated through years of therapy work with my therapist working on my triggered, repressed memories, learning to use appropriate coping tools to deal with my life, triggers, memories without using dissociation, learned how to self nurture (calm myself down and take care of what ever the problem is that is causing me a problem), medication for my depression and anxiety problems, therapy group for my depression, therapy group for my anxiety, therapy group for my DID Dissociation problems, learned how to deal with my life as an adult instead of react to my life like a child would, working on my every day problems with my therapist. As I became healthier mentally it just happened in a natural way.