(((peaches)))

I'm sorry you are hurting so much.

I once read an interview with a buddhist monk where he was asked about his relationship with his wife. Although I have never found the article again, his response stuck with me. He said there is only one relationship, the relationship with ourselves. If we get angry at someone, it is an expression of anger with ourselves. If we find joy with someone, it is an expression of our internal joy.

WePow's comment reminded me of this idea. I do believe that our relationship with T impacts the relationship we have with others in the real world. For myself, I noticed a direct correlation between opening up more in session and then being able to open up more to friends. The opening up had a lot to do with releasing shame I had about myself. So in that way, my relationship with myself DID impact my relationship with everyone else in my life.

The idea that we only have one relationship is challenging, but one that I keep coming back to. The more I think about it, the more wisdom I feel it has.

Using that idea to answer you question, I would say it is worth it to heal the source of the pain. Because with or without T, the pain will be there. T is not the one causing the pain, it comes from within. A good T will give us the opportunity to heal our relationship with ourselves, and by extension with everyone else in our lives.