Yes you are both right, but I must admit I was surprised at his reaction when I said I didn't believe him. He readily admitted that he did it to drive people away. He said :"Why did you insist?". He was pretty puzzled and he didn't seem to realize that he had encouraged me otherwise, which is amazing, coz it was pretty obvious!!! Except to him. He then said his friendliness had been unconscious, as if that made it less real!! On the contrary in my opinion. He apologized.
But then he went back to his jokes. He is humiliating to drive me away. That is obvious to me, but as soon as I go, he is nice, caring and completely the opposite.
I think his statement "I am a weirdo" comes from other people's reaction. He must have heard it quite a lot with his stupid games. In the beginning that was my opinion as well. I could be wrong here, but I think he has given up because he is convinced that sooner or later he will drive anybody away. I felt sorry for him when he said "I am happy alone with my daughter!". I do hope his daughter will never disappoint him. He has put so much on her shoulders that if she goes away for her studies or job, his whole life will crumble down. He must think that the daughter is the only female creature that will never disappoint him. It is his choice. He has to live with the consequences.
I do think the misogynistic attitude is partly authentic (to get even with women), partly a wall he built around him. So I don't judge him on that.
My defense attitude is smile and indifference. A friend got pretty angry once and said to me : "Do you want to sell something ?". I liked this friend and I suppose I was afraid of getting hurt. So I guess, it doesn't really show when I feel hurt, which encourages others to go on with their silly games (it takes 2!)

That being said, I don't accept it even if it a defense mechanism. After all, I don't want a man who considers me a threat to his well-being, his way of life.
I never tried to change a man. I never tried to change this one. I didn't buy it, that's all. I still don't, but that's not the point at this stage. Right ?