Patience is a virtue neiseluv, as Perna said you are training each other into communicating in a way that suits both of your needs. Rather than going for the pay off, try for clear communication that substantiates the out come required

He is trying to calm you and pacify you, it would be lovely if all men were like that
Then again some women love to toss a plate or two around the kitchen...and some men do to just quietly...

I hope you achieve your nirvana of communication,

Rhiannon