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Originally Posted by MadyJohannah
Thanks for the advice, PT. I didn't think of that. I was so focused on everyone else and what they were doing. I have never been in this situation before and I guess I was just thinking of trying to "hurt" everyone who hurts him. I know that won't solve the problem, though. I'm just so frustrated with them. I invited him to come and stay this week with us (my sis, younger bro, and I) before he goes back home. I am going to try to plan the holidays so he can come visit again, I just don't want to wait that long to see him again. We will talk more with him about what we can do and maybe he'll see that we're not like everyone else. I know only time will tell, but time can pass so slowly when you're fourteen and right now, he hates everything. Thanks to your advice, I just thought maybe I will get him a new phone so we can talk while he is away, although I would hate to have him hide anything from everyone. But, it may be a good thing. Thanks a bunch  . I really needed that  !
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A phone is a great idea! It gives him a lifeline; something that he can hang on to. You know, I wouldn't call it hiding. When I was a kid, my dad was a raging alcoholic and I was most often the target of his anger and ridicule. The only person I could talk to was my best friend's mom, but I kept it secret because I didn't want my dad (or anyone else) to ruin it. Those conversations were my safe place and the only thing that kept me going until I was old enough to move out. So if you can give this boy conversations that belong only to him, a safe place where he can share his feelings, then you have given him everything he needs. I truly believe that.