Hello blue,

I am so terribly sorry for your loss and for the situation that you were placed in. I think your husband thought he didn't have to worry any more so threw caution to the wind. Very stupid and very immature but a human mistake. I don't see why he took his paperwork regarding the vasectomy to work, that makes no sense to me.

He should have waited x amount of time, then had another motility test before having sex. No vasectomy is guaranteed and especially not before the motility and count after the vasectomy.

What I don't get though is why he got rid of his condoms etc and why he was so quick to jump in knowing the possible consequences.

If it were me I'd b asking the hard questions too, you deserve an answer and some respect