But I think its what kind of pain. There is a difference between pointless reenactments, and a healthy pain of facing emotional truth in an honest way in order to work through.

Yes, Ive had that endless recycling of hurt feelings, and no, I dont believe it should be like that. I believe that one should get the sense that therapy is resolving something, the process of which may be joy, or it may be pain, but whichever it is, one should be able to tell that its a clean, truthful, sober and 'right' feeling that you sense can take you towards a better life.