I do not think you are over emotional at all. I am sure you have considered the possibility that maybe there was no paperwork because he never got snipped? And about getting rid of his condoms so quick...from what I have heard, men don't like condoms. Also, if he ignores you, he does not have to acknowledge that there is a problem in the first place. I hope I am wrong because I just can't imagine another human being to be so callus to their mate. I am not one for divorce but if you cannot be safe around your mate, I am all for it. Good luck!