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Originally Posted by rainbow8
I agree that the best way is gradually. First, I would suggest bringing it up with your T. Does he think you're ready to cut down sessions? When I terminated with my last T, we cut down sessions very gradually. It worked well to see her every other week, then every 3 weeks, then monthy after about a year. It took a long time. Then, every few months. She told me that I could see her every few months for "maintenance" and that it would be good for me. Not all Ts agree to that kind of policy, But, I really think that if you bring up the idea with him it will be quite productive. You can determine together what is the best course for you.
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Thanks Rainbow. I will certainly need to do it gradually and I was kind of thinking the same way as you did it. I think that would be so much easier since I have very very strong abandonment issues. When he leaves even for a day, it gets me so worked up thinking he's left me for good. So gradually will probably be the best way for me. I know I do need to talk more openly to him about it. I've been wanting to, I guess I am just trying to avoid the situation. That is what I do when I am really scared.
Thank you Melbadaze. I am hoping I will get more out of it by trying to do more on my own when I know I can. I just don't tell T that because I don't want him to leave.
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Originally Posted by Hope4joy
After about a month and a half, I went back. It's not that I wasn't doing ok, I was. I just had some big things going on in my life and I missed her guidance and support. Sure enough, we're about 3 months into it again and it's been very healing for me.
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I know my T would take me back if I needed to when I did terminate or taper sessions. We have briefly talked about it. He said that I could always come back. Kinda of like your's, the door is never shut. I can always come back if thinkgs are not going well. I guess I feel that I will have failed if I need to go back to see him or any T.
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I got so headstrong about terminating and going it on my own I didn't really listen to how she felt about it. I wish I had. That being said, we picked right up and now I am truly moving into maintenance mode. It works for me to know I can go back. It doesn't have to be forever
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Hearing this makes me want to listen to him even more. I do believe him most of the time, but I just never let him see that as I stated before. But very good way of looking at it and I think so true.