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Old Aug 13, 2010, 03:00 PM
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Originally Posted by Murky View Post
Well this brings up an important point. How do you take to a spouse about how to deal with a bo partner? My own experience is that I've put my wife through enough bs already. I'm always the sensitive one. She always has to pick up my slack. Truthfully I'm lucky she hasn't left my *** already. I've been a selfish jerk for years. I'm going to guess other's have similar situations. So how do we tell them now that she's got to be more sensitive to my needs?
I can't speak for the initial poster views, but I feel in every relationship whether someone is diagnosed bp or not there are issues. It doesn't mean that because someone is diagnosed that their feelings aren't important and if it's something that truly bothers you I would rather my partner bring it up rather than stuff it until he became bitter and resentful. I also believe counseling can help in many situations.

If you have been a "selfish jerk" in the past and it wasn't your intention to behave that way I would rather my partner own up to that behavior and make an effort to change the habit and/or seek out professional help etc.
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