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Originally Posted by pachyderm
It may not apply to your therapist's intent or motivation. Deciding whether it does or not is hard. I suppose even harder is to decide what to do if you feel that the therapist really is regularly off the track.
You can ignore anything I say, if you wish.
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Actually, that's a really good point Pachy. I learned to trust my therapist's motivations and competence, but it really did take years and it's still not as stable as I would like.
I had one of the "A HA!" moments. It wasn't in my therapist's office, or even near him, but in a parking garage. I saw a really triggering situation with a family that shook me horribly.
Then, all of a sudden, I realized - "I'm no longer IN that situation". That's not me anymore.
It provided an slight shift in my perspective into my life
now and how I think about it, and how I might be able to change it.
The pain of
then, may not necessarily apply to what's happening
now.
I guess the problem is with trusting our perceptions of what's happening, given the backdrop of
then. Is that little voice
right, or just a recording of something that is
wrong.
As usual, you are dead on accurate. It's really hard to know for sure.