Since I am finding (often not until we've got through it) that my therapist's intentions are not the cruelty I imagine and that I feel in my reactions (that include disappointment, feeling pushed away, feeling uncared for), then the hurt and disappointment are about me.
About my perceptions which are fueled by my projections, my fears, my habit of avoiding and my imagining rather than being direct and finding out (is it my perception and or is it reality or some of each, etc.).

So, while I am currently in the middle of one of these times, I can appreciate that this is where I learn about me, and about how I am with others . It is an opportunity to practice doing something different. To not run, to not avoid, to be direct and check things out before coming to my own conclusion.