So in my last session, at the end, I said to T, "Why would a person choose not to cope well?" And she told me it was a good thing to think about and maybe I could come here and ask you guys what you thought.

I can only think of this:

Choosing good coping mechanisms right now would invalidate my pain. If I could choose good coping mechanisms, then it would be like I was saying I wasn't hurting at all.

Choosing bad coping mechanisms reduces uncertainty. I already know I'm not coping. I don't have to worry anymore, "Will I? Won't I?"

Anyone have any other ideas?