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Labels are practically useless, especially in the case of sexuality. Try not to box yourself in with the use of labels. It can be nice to have others who you feel have similar ways of life/preferences, etc. but don't allow a feeling of wanting to belong override who you truly are if that is the case here.
You have plenty of time to test the waters and see where you stand. Gain some experience into your own needs and desires, then place a label on yourself should you so choose. Focus more on treatment that can alleviate your depressive and anxiety symptoms.
If you'd rather have a personal anecdote than practical insight:
I thought for about a year that I was asexual to find out that isn't the case. I have been dealing with depression most of my life, so to say that could have played a role isn't much of a stretch.
And whoever may consider you "broken" or in need of being "fixed" is not worth your time. Stand your ground and don't allow them to treat you as such.
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Thank you for your advice. I'll avoid using labels, particularly since the wanting to belong isn't as strong as it used to be. I'll also try to stop worrying about it all to the detriment of my recovery. Thanks for your personal experience too - I've been dealing with it half my life so I can see how it could play a role. Standing my ground doesn't come naturally, but I'll give it all I can!
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I call myself asexual but don't really identify with the asexual community either. I can't really ever remember being sexually attracted to someone although I do masturbate and do enjoy sexual pleasure... just not with other people.
Just know that you're not alone. There are other people, and sexuality tends to fall more on a spectrum then a hard and fast black and white place.
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Thank you for your reply! It's quite easy to feel alone if you don't really fit into either the community or everyone else, but I'll keep myself from thinking I am. I'm trying to learn more about sexuality and how it's a spectrum - I have to avoid my desire to categorise everything! (Must be the scientist in me.)