I also think that by attending support social groups that can relate to your own health needs can help you meet other people. Have you ever thought about going to see a therapist to help you work through the social phobia that you had mentioned? Are there any clubs that shares the same hobbies like yours that you can join? Hang in there and keep reaching out to people and soon that time will come for you. Take your time because you don't want to rush and meet the wrong people.