Hello, my name is Nick and I am new to the forum. I will warn you I am about to write a novel so be prepared to read. I feel that you can get a better understanding in my situation if we start from the beginning.

I met my current wife a few years ago. We had both came out of ugly break-ups and found alot of comfort in each other. She was still young and had lived a "party" life full of drinking and promiscuous behavior that she was very open about and explained before we got too involved. I on the other hand had spent all of my teen days working and helped support my family. Despite her history and past, I fell in love with her deeply. It seemed that even at our age we both wanted to settle down and live a normal life and she wanted a second chance in life. She also explained she was on medication for mental health issues. We were together for a few months and everything was perfect. I made a few mistakes in the beginning and talked to my ex's and know I hurt her dearly. She had many issues and began this roller coaster effect where I could tell she would be fine one day and depressed the next. At this point she had taken herself off of her meds. Her problems affected her in school and eventually one day she decided on the way to school that she wanted to kill herself. Before she made any mistakes she called me and said she needed help and to come get her before she did something stupid. I picked her up and took her to her doctor immediately. Her stepfather met me there and after she talked to her doctor the doctor informed us she reccommended her to be admitted for a week for observation and re-medication. She was locked inside of a mental health facility for a week. During her stay we wrote back and forth and I really felt she was getting help although it killed me she had to be in such a place. After she was released she came home and me and her spent every waking moment together. I felt I had seen her in such a long time. She was very pleasant and caring and I seen the same girl I fell in love with. A few months later we found out she was pregnant. Immediately her OB/GYN took her off of her medication due to the pregnancy. It was a risky pregnancy anyways because she had a still-born the year before when she was with her last boyfriend. After being off of her meds for a while she started acting odd again. Then one day she just dissapeared. She had lied to me and her mom about where she was and I eventually found out she had went to stay in another town with a guy she had just met. We overcame this obstacle and I just wrote it off as a symptom of her mental health issue. The pregnancy went well and we have now a beautiful 17 month old baby boy!...after the baby was born our relationship was great. We worked together raising our newborn and I felt like life couldnt get any better. When our son was very young I was invited to a Nascar race and wanted to go. She originally told me to go ahead and go, but then last minute before we left she was very angry and felt like I was abandoning her and my son. I ended up going. After I came home we fought about it for a few days and eventually overcame this problem too. A few weeks later she asked if she could go to the beach with her friend to drop her friend's cousin off (she had been staying in our area and needed a ride home). As unhappy as I was about the last minute trip I told her to go. The day she came home her and her friend drove overnight and was very tired. They could only make it within 2 hours of here before stopping and wanted me to come with a friend to drive her home and her friends car home. We went and picked them up, she came home, and everything was ok. A month or so down the road I took her to a Cincinatti Reds game and to the Newport Aquarium just to get out of town. On this trip I found text messages between her and my friend that set with me uneasy. I questioned her about them and she admitted when she went to the beach that she actually went to meet him there and they hung out. She claims they only kissed and held hands but he tells a different story. So, once again, I wrote it off as being a symptom of her mental illness that she still wouldnt medicate herself for. We overcame this issue and decided to get married months later. We had a beautiful wedding and again I felt like we were on top of the world. After being married for a while I found out she had been talking to my friend she went to the beach with. I was very upset, angry, and most of all hurt...Once again...we overcame it...about 2 months ago I suspected her of lying about talking to someone else and found out she had been talking to ANOTHER one of my friends and meeting him. This friend just so happened to be old enough to be hers or my dad! ONCE AGAIN, we overcame it and everything was ok. Weeks ago she asked me for a "girls night" and came to my work to get money and took our baby to her mom. She disappeared until late into the night and when she came home she was very strange and distant. I knew in my gut something was up so I checked through her phone and found she had been talking to another not-so-close friend of mine. I woke her up and questioned her and she admitted she went to hang out with him all night and had done so a few times that week. She claimed again that they only kissed. So, ONCE AGAIN we worked through it and I felt everything was ok. Then last week rollls around. Her best friend was getting married and she was in the wedding. Ironically the last guy she was with was in the wedding as well. To elude conflict I didnt go out of respect for her friends and mine to avoid a conflict. After the wedding she asked if she could party at the newlywed's house. As unhappy as I was I told her to go ahead but just to check in with me and let me know she was ok. I couldnt get ahold of her most of the night and finally found her at taco bell with a car load of random drunk guys she barely knew. I told her to come with me and she refused. I followed them back to her friend's house where then again she refused to come home. I threatened to leave her if she didnt go with me and eventually she caved in and went home with me. The next day she informed me she was going with her friends who just got married and a couple guys to a baseball game in Pittsburg. Being that we just went through this situation I was unhappy and spoke my mind. She decided to go anyways. She made it less than 20 mins away and for some reason decided to not go and made me come get her. We went home, crawled into bed with our son, and pretended like nothing happened. The next day she asked if I would take her and our son to the zoo since she didnt get to go out of town and it would be fun for everyone. I cancelled work for the next day and took them 4 hours away to the zoo and to get a nice dinner. The trip went very well and we got along like best friends. We came home that night, made love, and fell asleep peacefully. The next day I left for work and she left about the same time I did. She said she was taking our friend Nate (the one who just married her best friend) to register for classes at the college (this was very common and she always helps him with school things). I went to go pick up material for a job and passed her in town. She was with our son, nate, and a guy who was younger than me in school. This guy was sitting in the front seat next to her. *(this also is the guy who was with her at taco bell and was going on the pittsburg trip)*. I stopped to talk to her and she had a horrible attitude and felt like I was accusing her of doing something wrong. We got in a huge fight and my anger got the best of me and I punched her car while our son was in it. I felt like a total idiot afterwards and after that I willingly started in an anger managment counseling session. She didnt come home that night. Her and the baby stayed at her friends house. Since then she has been begging me for a divorce and says she hates my guts. She also admits openly to sleeping with this new guy (who she has known for less than 2 weeks). She then said her and this guy were going out of town with our kid. Of course I objected and told her if she was leaving that I would take the baby. She refused. She wouldnt have a reasonable conversation with me at all. Her parents decided to go out of town on vacation the same weekend and suggested taking our son so that we wouldnt fight in front of him. After they were there for a day or so she said she was depressed and wanted to go down to see her parents and our son. Both of our cars were not trip-worthy and she couldnt find a vehicle to take. Her sister has a nicer car and offered to let her use it if she could use mine. I let her sister take my car and she took her sisters to Pigeon Forge. I paid for her gas and even gave her gas/food money for the trip. It wasnt until she got there did I find out that her new boyfriend was there as well. She claimed his family was on vacation there too and it was a coincidence. She used the excuse that she was going to see our son in Tennessee and she barely got home to the hotel before 4am every day. When they came back I got my son and seriously considered filing for temporary emergency custody and divorce. She still to this day has NO reasonable conversations with me unless she wants something. She has asked me to pay for some bills she owes at college, pay for a new cell phone, and pay on her American Eagle credit card. I am still debating about paying it today. When I do see her she isnt the same person. I see in her eyes that she is crying for help and the words coming out of her mouth just seem like someone else is saying them. She has literally looked at me and said she hates me and is disgusted by me.

I have begged her before we file for divorce to please go to counseling with me and demanded she get mental health help or I would temporarily take our son. I couldnt live with myself if something happened to him. She has him around guys she barely knows and if something were to happen to him it would kill me. She refuses any kind of treatment or to go to counseling with me.

She called me yesterday at work and asked if I would come get her and take her to look for a new car. I did and helped her pick one out her parents want to buy her. She was fine the whole time we hung out but then once I dropped her off it was like she hated me again.

Today she hinted around she needed help on a school paper ( I have always helped her with school papers in the past ). She dropped our son off earlier where I greated her with roses and a smile. I ended up writing the whole thing for her and she said she would come by and read it and hang out and talk. After the paper was done and turned in online she said she couldnt come over because she was too tired and that she was crashing at her girlfriends house. My curiosity got the best of me and I checked and she wasnt there. I called her and asked her where she was at and I was met with alot of curse words and ill feelings and told it was none of my business. I asked if she was at her new boyfriends and she said hell no he was busy tonight. You best believe my gut told me to check and sure enough her car is parked there right now.

She claims I brought all of this on myself by working tooooo much. I do work long hard hours. I am an electrician and work as many hours as daylight will allow. We also just started last week on our new house I was building for our family. So my schedule has been hectic. But she doesnt work. She goes to nursing school and raises our son (which I undersatand is like a full time job) but she doenst hesitate to spend money or overspend on certain items...and we had talked right before we got marriend and understood the first 3-4 years of our marriage would be chaos and suck. . but at the time we both agreed it would make the best life for our son and our family.

So, I am fed up. I have tried being nice. I have tried being mean. I have tried giving her space and ignoring her. Nothing seems to work. She needs help and needs it soon. My head tells me to run and take our son...but there are some issues with that. I feel guilty ripping a child from its mother anyways but especially with her last birth ending the way it did I would feel even worse.

My heart tells me she needs help and even though she has blatantly destroyed our marriage with no remourse I still married her because I love her and promised to be there for her through thick and thin. So I am battling in my head if I am doing the right thing or I should leave?

Supposedly she has a doc appt monday morning ( I demanded if she wants our son alone ) . We havent filed any divorce or seperation papers until we find out what is going on. I dont want to pay all of this money just to get divorced when counseling and meds may fix her.

I love her whole heartedly and feel so wrong filing for divorce and feel she could be better if she got help.. But like I said earlier she is refusing....So how do you help a person who wont even accept that they are having an issue?

I believe she was diagnosed with depression when she went to the hospital but I also believe she was borderline Bi-Polar just because of her actions and decisions she has mad...

So my question is do I stick it out or do I run while I can?

Thanks, and I apprecaite your time...