I think sometimes it is harder to use good coping skills when things get really bad, because the good coping skills just don't seem to work as well as the bad ones.

I think of analogies a lot, and I thought of it being like eating a low cal version of a food when you want the real version. Like those 100 cal packs of oreo thin crisps? those are kind of tasty, and they are ok to have sometimes, but when you're REALLY craving the real thing they just aren't good enough. Maybe that's a silly comparison.....

But i think it's pretty complex, there can be many different reasons, and it might not be the same for everyone, or for every time.

Really good to think about this, though.

Hugs to you, Jexa.