I have a gut feeling that I can only work with a T older than me. I am in group therapy and I think the T is older than most of us - one person might be the same age but since they joined the question hasn't come up. Earlier in the group's history, age did come up and when I said I thought and hoped that our T was older than me, the focus was on why. Of course, she never said what age she was.

I still need some sort of parental role from a T and I am not sure how that transference would work if she were closer to me in age? It must work in practice because lots of Ts are younger than their clients.

I feel cross about this because it is ageist etc. but I hope if I ever work with a younger T, we would talk about this. I am 44 btw. so it is increasingly likely that any future Ts will be my age or less. But I hope this group lasts a long time and by the time I leave, I won't need therapy again. Fingers crossed etc.