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Hun you've seen the way I am in chat... you know I have problems with that very same thing. The thing is, is that I can't help it, I don't think about what I'm typing, I just type it. You are not alone, many ppl are like this especially me.

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Just because many people do something does not mean that it's OK to do it, and I wonder what you mean by 'you can't help it.' You do have free will, and, if you recognize this as a problem, aren't you motivated to work on it?

I guess the issues of "can't help it," "can't do anything about it," and free will are all pretty loaded for me, but I still think it's a voluntary abdication of responsibility to say such things, rather than the reality.

I've read a lot of Greenleaves' posts on the other board that she's referring to. What she's describing is very damaging, to Greenleaves and to others. I'd rather see her encouraged to work on improving her control than see others offering her a way to abdicate her free will. Does that make sense?

Or, maybe it's all just an age thing. I'm old enough to recognize that life is way too long to spend it being so miserable about something that I can work on. Maybe I can't be perfect -- this week, at least ;-) -- but at least I can try to improve.