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Originally Posted by treehouse
((((((elliemay))))))
If I were in your situation, I would make myself go, even though I might not WANT to go.
I know that my T cares about me, and that he is an excellent T...AND I know that he says stupid things sometimes...AND I know that he sometimes says one thing and I hear another. I would want to go to talk to him to see what happened.
My T has said some dumb things and when we've talked about it, he is able to look back and say "I was a bad T at that moment", and we move on.
He's said some things that REALLY made me mad, but that he still stood by...and we had to find a way to work around whatever it was, or agree to disagree.
And usually, he's said something and meant it one way, and I've interpreted it another way, and there is a huge disconnect between the reality of the situation and the situation in my head.
You've been with your T a long time, and he sounds like such a good T. Give yourself the chance to go and work this out with him.
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I know my T cares about me. I know he is worried. I also know that this is the first major rupture that we couldn't resolve in a relatively short amount of time.
And it's a big one to me. Regardless of the reality of the situation, I feel like he told me to just "shut up, and you'd better behave yourself while I am gone."
It's tough to shake. Even tougher to face when he gets back. I know he'll say "Oh ellie, I didn't mean it like that" In a very cooing voice that'll make me feel retarded or something. Then he'll apologize, and I'll have to sit with that until it's alright.
In the meantime, nothing gets worked on, nothing gets solved or worked through.
Sigh. It would be so much easier to ignore.