traction, you surely care very deeply for him. I am glad he came through the surgery OK (the anesthesia always scares me a bit when my loved ones have surgeries). It is probably good he is taking more time off than planned--surgery can be so tiring. When he comes back and you have a session, you can express your concern for him and he will probably be very touched. It could be a nice moment... My T has had some physical stuff happen to him and I find such a core of empathy in myself for him when we are back together. As he tells me his story, I have cried--I can't help it, I just feel so connected. He is OK with it. He sees that I care. Traction, it is OK to hurt because he hurts. It is a sign of your closeness and you would probably be that way too with a friend or family member to whom you are very close. It will feel really good for you to be back with him and feel his "aliveness". Hope the days pass quickly.