Hi Nick, ever heard the expression "20% of the people do 80% of the work? Do you see yourself in that equation anywhere? Point being she took some vows as well. How is it possible to stalk your spouse if you live in the same house? Psychotic is when you see or hear things that aren't real. You should have a partner to help your marriage instead of working against it? The reason she's not in the driver's seat is because she got out of it when she stopped taking her meds. Sounds like the woman you know and love only comes out when she is at her best or needs something from you. Not even in her threats to leave you does she take responsibility for what's happening. she claims you are stalking her. She is looking to you to fix something only a pdoc can fix. Let us know how her doc appointment goes. Hang in there.