pachy, for what it's worth i do think you are making progress with the threads you've posted lately. i've even seen a change in some of the things you've been saying since then. you seem to be more in the present rather than responding to things people say from your childhood perspective. do not despise small beginnings!

as for truth, right and wrong and all that...well, there is truth (black & white) and there are also opinions (gray). it's not an either/or but a bothand. when we think everything is either black & white or everything is gray is when we run into problems. there are many areas in life where things are just our preference or perspective or opinion and that is fine (e.g. what career to pursue). then, there are the biggies (e.g. abuse is wrong) that are right or wrong. of course, it's gets complicated sometimes in discerning between what is one of the biggies and what is mere opinion. that is where many disagreements occur. to say "there are no absolutes" is in fact an absolute and therefore a self-contradictory statement.

as children many of us were told things about ourselves that were not really true. (e.g. you don't really feel hurt when i do such and such). as adults we now have the freedom and ability to stand our ground and say for instance "yes, we really do feel hurt". we also may have been told what to think. as children some weren't given the space to disagree without punishment but as adults we do have that space as long as we are not a danger to ourselves or others.