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Old Aug 16, 2010, 06:37 PM
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It's sort of like when we are teaching someone how to ride a horse & a certain technique just isn't working to get a certain movement accomplished. The teacher sees the big picture & even though one path seemed to be right, there comes a time when we can see that the result we were hoping for just isn't happening, so it's important to try another method that may work better. We pay the T to know all the possible techniques that they can come up with & make available for us & hopefully one of those techniques will succeed with the necessary result. Professionals are trained to know all the possible techniques to try, that is why we hire professionals & not just wing it with friends who aren't trained.

Sometimes we get comfortable with a technique even though it's not working, so it feels very uncomfortable to change even though it might be a much better technique after we get used to is as we got used to the past technique.......gotta give them a chance.

Give it time & be open to the possibilities rather than closing up on the change due to fear. Trauma does not have a cut & dried treatment method & it's sort of a trial & error sort of thing with the T having a bag of tools they have available when one doesn't work, they need to try another. When we are lucky enough to have a T who is flexible in their treatment methods, it's good for us to try to be as flexible as possible in being open to the options in hopes that another method will end up working better.

You might be very pleasantly surprised & find that this new idea of your T will work much better..never know until you try.

If you feel like you need to finish your story, I think that might be a good thing to communicate to your T because leaving something hanging isn't always the best thing either. Think there will probably be a good compromise worked out .

Think it will all work out better in the end.

Best wishes
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