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She said it feels like we've been paddling upstream and instead we're going to get out of the water and walk for a while. It's coming to the same goal from another angle.
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My T has made the same suggestion at several times in my therapy, Zoo. The first time I felt not only that I had somehow 'failed' at trauma therapy, but also that now I wouldn't get the chance to heal as I had expected to. It was like, "I thought we were taking the interstate to get there, but now we are taking the back roads, and I'm gong to miss all the stuff I planned to see!"
In reality, theat's not how it turned out for me. I have paused at points in my telling of my story. Those were the times when the therapy was so torturous that T told me he would not continue because it was like I was being abused all over again, and he couldn't in good conscience do that to me. So we'd work on some other aspect of the healing; coping with triggers, relaxing, facing fears, etc. In time, the past would rear up again and I'd be moved to tell more of my story, and we'd work on it again until it was too much. It came in fits and starts.
Not telling your story right now doesn't mean not telling your story ever.