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I'm sorry it's so hard to talk to T If you feel like you need to let her know what's going on, I think it's okay to send the e-mail, although, like you said, she probably won't respond. I send my T e-mails that he doesn't respond to, and it helps me just to know that someone knows what's going on.

Have you tried going to T and just talking about the weather, or her furniture, or..??? Or I wonder if you could bring a book you like a read a few pages from it. During times when I have been really really really afraid to open up my mouth and talk to T, I sometimes could manage to say "I'm afraid to talk" and just getting SOMETHING out of my mouth helped a little bit.

Hang in there. I know how stressful it is to be the support person for sick parents.