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Originally Posted by zooropa
(((((you guys))))) Thank you so much for your replies. I love this place. 
I feel ok about this today. I had a dream last night that I met someone who is like a hero of mine. But in my dream he was a total ****. But I was ok with that, in my dream. I knew it was HIM and not ME. I think it's possible that I'm starting to feel ok in myself and not need constant outside reassurance. Starting. I think.
Part of me is entertaining the idea of not going to T anymore, and kind of enjoying exploring that. Most of me knows that's not going to happen and I'll be there next week for my session, like always.
My T isn't perfect and it really seems to me like she made a couple of mis-steps yesterday. You guys have helped confirm that for me, that it's not me, it's her. And I don't expect her to be perfect. I am just trying to chalk it up to Ts annoying insistence on being human and thus fallible, and move on.
It does kind of freak me out that she was so quick to say "fine, nevermind, we'll go back to the old way of doing it" but that seems like just another sign that she's not at the top of her game right now.
Jexa, I will absolutely use the DBT parlance when I talk to her again. It doesn't have to be all one way or another. It can be both. There's the dialectic. 
Peaches, rainbow, tree, wepow, googley, your words helped me so much. Thank you. Thank you. |
zooropa my opinion is your therapist is trying to go with what you want. you told her
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Originally Posted by zooropa
last week at my session I told her that I didn't want to come, that I didn't want to do trauma work. I told her that I need to feel in charge and that it's starting to feel like another violation, being forced to talk in there.
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the next session she tells you starting the next session you wont be doing trauma work. Wich in my opinion is agreeing with you – you told her you didn’t want to do trauma work so she said no more trauma work.
You got upset by this so you called her. she called you back and told you not worry about it you can finish the trauma work.
Shes agreeing with you again you want to dot he trauma work so she says we’ll dothe trauma work.
now you are upset because she told you stop worrying about it you and she can do the trauma work.
My opinion You have your therapist going in a circle- You want trauma work she does it with you then you don’t want trauma work so she takes it out of sessions then you do want trauma work so she puts it back in there and now you are upset again because she said ok its back in so don’t worry about it. you can finish the trauma work..
You need to decide what you want and then tell your therapist your final decision on this issue. You cant keep bouncing your therapist back and forth, its not fair to her, when all she is trying to do is do what you want in therapy, and its not fair to yourself.
Im wondering if you having so much control where you can change things in your therapy is good for you right now. sometimes when clients have therapists that are flexible where they can tell the therapist what to do and the therapist agrees, its upsetting when the therapist agrees to do what they want. maybe what you need is a therapist that will set a boundary with you that half way through something you dont get to change the work. that way you wont get into a situation of going in circles again. Just a thought.
